I am going through this thing right now, where I end up feeling guilty if I don't offer to do some chore, and instead just expect Beloved to do it. I am fighting the cultural narrative that I owe him for the monetary support he provides us. Owe him beyond the raising of his puppy, beyond the chores that I already do during the day, and despite the money that I also bring in.
He doesn't encourage this feeling, if anyone was wondering. This is the first time, for me, where I've been in a relationship with someone who has taken full responsibility for his own life. I am used to playing Mom to the guys I've dated (especially the last one), and breaking out of the servicing mindset I've developed is very difficult.
Which, by the way, isn't to say that moms are servants, but that they must do a lot of the responsible thinking for their children. What with children being not-grown-up-yet and all...
I am going a bit crazy, but I think, with time, I will be alright.
2 days ago